Hello lovelies! I have often been asked how I manage to run my household, fill the needs for my family while working nights. The comment I get often at the end is “I don’t know how you do it, your super mom!” and I always say, “no, I’m really not. You do what you have to do”. And I believe that. When the time came after being home with my son for 2 years, I knew it was time for me to go back to work, to find a job. I knew we needed the extra money to help get us into a better financial situation, and honestly, I was ready to go back to working. But it wasn’t easy for me to let go of my son. And the one thing I found was the crazy price for daycare out here in the PNW. I just couldn’t let my son go to daycare (first child fears kicking in) even though I was ready to work let alone pay over $300 a week. So naturally, I started looking for work at night. While I have to admit, being called super mom made me feel great despite how exhausted and drained I was, it never really sat well with me. I am not able to do this without the help and support of my husband. While he does work long hours during the day, and we never get to see each other except in passing between our 2 shifts, we always made sure to communicate and to remember that this isn’t forever. That with each passing day we are one step closer to where we want to be. And once we get there, we will be able to enjoy our time. And when my husband was at home, he always made sure to help out and do his share if not more.
So while I have been doing this crazy schedule now for 2 1/2 years, there was a lot I needed to learn and figure out to make this work for not only my husband and our son, but for me as well. And that is what I am going to share with you all.
Please note, that these are just things that help me out. I am not a professional in anyway.
Finding the right schedule to get as much sleep as possible. What I did was, as my son grew and his sleeping patterns changed, I learned to adapt to that to optimize my sleep. Before he was in preschool, and my husband would come home in the early afternoon, I was able to go to bed after dinner and take a nap after work at 8am because my son would sleep till about 10 a.m. Of course, our schedules have since changed and I had to adapt.
Eating a balanced meal. This is SO hard for me sometimes, especially with my schedule. It is so much easier to take frozen dinner or eat junk throughout my shift at work. We are a snack eating family. We love to snack and enjoy junk food at times. But with my fertility issues, and my lifestyle being that I work 3rds, I knew that if I couldn’t get the proper 8 hours of sleep, I needed to at least eat healthy and take my vitamins. This is still a work in progress, but we have been making the steps to cut out most of the junk and really watch what we eat.
Drinking lots of water. I say this because I know how easy it is to forgo the water for lots and lots of caffeine. I don’t particularly buy other types of drinks, except for the usual apply/orange and milk. So our go to is always water. It is hard to drink those 8 cups of water a day sometimes for me, but when I am at work, I make sure to drink extra water that I missed that day. It really helps to not buy other types of drinks and make water the only drink of choice besides tea and coffee.
Lift some weights and get to running! Something that took me a while to get myself to do but I am finally doing it. Working 3rds and having a family is exhausting, and it is so easy to want to do nothing and become sedentary. I use the time my son is in preschool 3 days a week to hit the gym for a quick 30 minute workout. You have to start somewhere, and for me 30 minutes is a great starting point. I do some weight lifting for my muscles, then I hit a cardio machine afterwards, or switch it up. I have even starting doing yoga as a way to balance my mind and body while getting the stretch it needs. Don’t worry about how long or how much you start off at, if you haven’t exercised in a long time, like me, then the simple fact that you are trying and starting is way better then where you were before. And once you get yourself going for a while, you can adjust your workout.
Get Outdoors! I feel so fortunate to live in the PNW with it’s amazing nature and mountains. I mainly try to do trails or hikes on my days off with my husband and son. It allows us to enjoy nature, get some exercise, and spend time together. Plus I find it to be a great stress reliever while outside taking in the beautiful fresh air and scenery.
Road trip!! Now this is something that we don’t get to do often enough, but we try to do when we have the time and money. I work for a hotel chain so we have the perks of my employee rates which helps, but even if it is somewhere more local or a few hours away, we try to make time to do a trip and be tourists. I love trying out new cities, areas, places. It gives me something new to experience outside of my own city and area. And it doesn’t have to be costly. Even day trips are something we do often as well! Plus a little research can help you plan and find cheap if not free events/activities.
What are you reading now? I have always had a strong love for reading books, since I was young. Of course, once I had my son, my priorities have shifted and I have less time to devote to reading and staying up late to read a good book. But I don’t let my lack of time stop me from reading. When I have a night off, I enjoy taking a bath with a glass of wine and reading a book or listening to podcasts. My husband prefers audiobooks, and used to listen to them a lot more when his job used to keep him on the road all the time. Utilize your public library. If you have an account to your library, check out the books or even use their online audiobook collection to listen to them. That’s what we love to use! Reading really keeps your mind and imagination working.
I do believe that a part of living a happy life is to find things you enjoy. Whether it is baking, scrapbooking, reading, painting, sports, etc. find what it is and do it! I had picked up scrapbooking in college and I found that it actually calms me and I truly enjoy it. What I plan on doing next year is start taking archery lessons here. I have always wanted to do it growing up, but never had the opportunity back home. It is never too late to try something new!! Starting this blog was another thing that I found I enjoyed putting my time into. Do what makes you happy and calms you. It will help to destress from the craziness that is life.
Coffee please! I LOVE coffee. I love the smell, the taste and the comfort that it gives me. And give me a cute mug and I am all set! Of course you don’t want to over indulge in caffeine, but a few cups a day is alright in my book! Hahaha!
I know this isn’t ideal, and yeah I am extrememly exhausted from taking care of my son and home all day once I get home from work, sleep for a couple hours when my son goes to bed, and the wake up by 10p.m. to go to work for 8 plus hours, only to start the routine all over again the next day.
I hope you found this helpful. This are just some of the things that I have learned to incorporate into my life to help me juggle the job that I have while taking care of my family with my husband. I hope this helps you out and you can take something from this. This doesn’t only pertain to those who work 3rd shift or juggling a family. This is something that everyone can take and use for their life.
I have been trying to also step up my blogging game. I hope you enjoy all of my little pictures with words that I put together. Let me know if you have any questions or want me to talk about anything!!
Till next time! Happy New Year everyone!